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Since I was a kid I have been writing stories. Narratives about fictional characters in made-ups worlds, within the infinite realm of my fantasies. Now I write about my real life adventures, about the results of my yearning to see as much of the world as I can possibly combine with a career and regularly seeing friends and family. These stories are primarily a recollection of my own memories, as I am keen to preserve as many details of my foreign adventures as possible, lest the images I try to recall years later inevitably become blurred. As a positive externality, the result may be a pleasant read for the interested outsider. I hope you will enjoy my blog.

Tony Grifone

Sunday, 23 August 2015

Weekends in Dublin

Another one of those entertaining weekends in Dublin. My intention to spend more time in Dublin this summer is paying off. It is rewarding me with a mixture of culture, drinks & dinner, great company and sports. It may begin to sound repetitive, my continuous capturing of how well Dublin’s fair city treats me, but that doesn’t constitute a convincing enough argument against narrating it over and over again. Especially when I find myself in the very comfortable and writing-enhancing environment of the local Starbucks unit. It’s a Sunday morning and one of this weekend’s major treats is still to be enjoyed later on this day, as I secured tickets for the GAA semi-final between Kerry and Tyrone! A sold-out Croke Park is always an experience worth attending any game for, even though my understanding of Gaelic Football is limited at best. It won’t be long before Guilherme and I will cross the Liffey and take another deep dive into Irish culture. I expect it to be the cherry on the cake of a very entertaining weekend, which started very well on Friday night. In the company of Peter, Gene, Padraic, Eoin and Diarmaid the evening was kicked off with dinner at Pichet, whereafter we went to the Olimpia theatre to watch a great performance of the musical Once. Amazing! The night ended when the last bar we visited somewhere in South William Street closed, and if it hadn’t been for the football scheduled at noon on Saturday I would still have been asleep. It was a good reason to get out of bed however, and the running around Fairview Park certainly contributed to battling the last traces of my hangover. After the game I took a bath while enjoying a plate of lasagne (reminded me of coffee in the shower in the Gildebroeders) and slept for another two hours. Not overly keen to make it a late night again I nevertheless was in the mood for a pint or two and in the company of Jesus and Xaxi it was drinks in the Workmans club, whereafter we joined some of Xavi’s friends in the Garage bar in Temple Bar. Sensibly I decided to call it a day around midnight, took a Dublin bike home in the pouring rain, and woke up at the very respectable hour of nine o’clock this morning. And there we are, the circle has been completed. My cup is empty, my thoughts drifting to Croke Park. Time to go!

Summer nights


There was certainly a risk involved, planning to spend four consecutive hours in a park in Dublin on a summer evening. Presently, from my seat at the Starbucks in Rathmines, I can see the rain pouring down outside. For now this only complements the snug feeling that my massive cappuccino and the Sunday morning music already initiated. Should we have experienced such a downpour last Thursday however, I can imagine that the word ‘snug’ would have been the last on my mind. But Ana Marija’s determined insistence that it wouldn’t rain that night, based on one out of several conflicting weather forecasts, proved justified. And so the open air cinema in Merrion Square was a success.


At about three quarters of the Grand Budapest Hotel I managed to tear my eyes away from the screen in order to soak up the scene around me. You know, another one of those moments that you ‘step out’ of the situation in order to fully appreciate what is going on. The top floors of the 200-year old Georgian houses lining the square were visible above the trees in Merrion Square, bathing in the yellow glow of the street lights. Darkness had already set (lest we wouldn’t have been able to see the screening) and the sky was a concoction of ominous clouds and streaks of dark night sky. Occasional gusts of wind, met by shivers on my right side, blew the clouds apart before they had a chance to congregate into a decent force. The temperature was still pleasant however, and we were surrounded by a happy crowd of people sitting on blankets, eating their picnics, drinking their non-alcoholic beverages, and collectively enjoying the movie. An oasis of green in the heart of Dublin, on a summer night, enjoying the simple things in life. Such was the realisation, and my gaze drifted back to the screen. It was a movie worth watching after all.



Monday, 17 August 2015

The Aran Islands with the lads

[note: this blog post is best read with the following playlist: i) The Weeknd - Can't feel my face, ii) Calvin Harris & Disciples - How deep is your love and iii) Johnny Cash - Burning ring of fire]


Wow! It was one of those weekends. One of those long weekends where summer is the buzz word and everything seems to come together at the right time. Where plans work out according to plan and brilliant impulses cover gaps in the schedule better than any pre-orchestrated plot could have. It was near midnight last Thursday when the boys arrived in Dublin city centre, and after 685 kilometres on the road, two 8-minute flights, loads of cycling, 105 pints, and one mango smoothie the weekend has just come to an end. It was magical. Let’s reminisce. Let’s re-live. Let’s share the story.


It was an early wake-up Friday morning at 7 o’clock. First of all I am not used to waking up that early on neither week days nor weekends, and secondly I had only had five hours of sleep. As the lads arrived only close to midnight at the hostel the night prior, we were lucky enough to find a bar that still served customers and celebrated the start of what was going to be a marvellous trip with our first round of Guinness. While I had expected some delay on the lads’ behalf the next morning, I nevertheless found myself at the crossroads we were supposed to meet at at eight, waited for 15 minutes, gave out to the culprits when they finally showed up, and set off towards county Clare. First stop: Obama Plaza near Moneygall for some Irish breakfast (sausages, scrambled eggs, pudding) and some confused glances at a huge photograph of the president of the USA holding a picture of his Irish ancestor (who ever convinced him of that?). After another 1.5 hours on the road we were all very keen to get out of the car, some for reasons of the prospect of surfing, others for the lack of room to move / breathe / blink. An Audi A4 is a big enough car, but trust me, with 5 lads our size things get very tight in there.


Conditions in Lahinch were perfect. Rolling waves, sunrays making their way through the clouds, green rolling hills on either side of the bay and loads of surfing. After having ridden a wave all to the end, one was tempted not to waste any time lingering but rather fight its way back to where another great wave could be caught. But every now and again I held off before plunging into the water again. Look around Tony. Breathe in the fresh sea air, taste the salt on your lips, take in all this beauty around you and realise it’s the Atlantic Ocean you are gazing at. Be conscious of your amazing surroundings and enjoy it that little bit extra. Get that additional sense of happiness and gratefulness that comes with realising what you have and how much you should cherish that. And then that next wave is even better. After two tremendous hours and with the tide rising we reluctantly left the water, wondered how to get clean & dry without showers or towels, and squeezed into the car again. The natural wonders of driving along the coast and through the Burren were a treat to the eye, and Paal and I enthusiastically pointed out rewarding views and cool rock formations. The lads in the back, to varying degrees, decided to give their eyes a rest instead, and saved energy for what was going to be a great evening out in Galway City.


Freshly showered and dressed to the nines we first enjoyed a hearty meal (burgers, steak, fish ‘n chips), and then set off to the Quays for some great live music (first downstairs, then upstairs in the club). We switched from Guinness to Hophouse, Boonman proved his French magnet also works in the West of Ireland, and we finished the night only when the club closed and we were ushered out of the premises into the street. With more beers in our bellies and less sleep than the night before, the alarm clock the next morning rang agonisingly early at half seven. In hindsight, as we ended up being 1.5 hours early for our flight at Connemara Airport, we could have extended our night’s rest with what surely would have been a much valued extra hour. But hey, then we wouldn’t have taken a walk around the airport, taken selfies with donkeys, and attempted to build a dam in a river. Loads of fun, and I got away with mixing up the flight itinerary.


With the bulk of our body weight at the wings and a smirking Italian lad next to the pilot, we set off towards Inishmor, where we landed about eight minutes after take-off. Awesome! And much better than being stuck on a ferry for an hour and a half with i) a hangover and ii) a crowd that includes a multitude of American tourists and a hen party or two. The next 24 hours were pure bliss. The weather picked up, from overcast and a few rays of sun to blue skies with only scattered clouds, and we started our stay on the biggest of the Aran Islands with a big lunch (fish ‘n chips, chowders, pizza). As our Dutch origins blended perfectly well with the modus operandi of transport on the island (bikes), we cycled crisscross through fields, past drystone walls, and up hills. 


Highlights were the well preserved remnants of ancient fortresses and the stunning views that came with them. In the evening we watched part of a rugby game, opted for a meal with a price tag that wouldn’t degrade us to poor and penniless before the holidays were over (fast food, burger, chips with cheese), and watched some live music in a local pub. When the four square meters in front of our chairs got congested with a crowd of rather voluminous females, awkwardly balancing on high heels while guzzling away a multitude of alcoholic beverages, I decided to call it a day and catch 8 hours of sleep for a change. The others tried in vain to catch a glimpse of the band through the forest of tightly wrapped flesh but followed me up rather swiftly when the unfeasibility of that endeavour became apparent. Exhausted, well fed and with our thirst quenched, and blissfully happy, I fell asleep in my way too small bed on a rather poor mattress. And we’re only halfway. Boom boom boom.


Sunday was more of Saturday but with even better weather (and less cycling). With a packed lunch we set off towards the most spectacular cliffs and spend three hours walking around, sitting in the sun, admiring the view, eating our lunch (ham, sandwich, cheese), taking pictures, gazing around some more, while creating a mental picture of how astonishingly beautiful Inishmor is. It is a picture that will last a lifetime. After a round of Guiness we were collected by the bus driver, driven to the airport, tjop tjop 8 minute flight, into the car, and off to Birr, county Offaly. Oh no wait. Why don’t we watch the hurling semi-final in a local pub? Galway play Tipperary. If there’s one way to impress those oblivious of Gaelic sports it’s a game of Hurling. Fast, technical yet physical, and completely new to most of the lads, the second half we got to see was an experience well worth postponing our arrival in Birr for. With the locals cheering for every point Galway scored, and the winning goal scored in the very last minute received by joyous celebrations in the snug little pub we found ourselves in, this is a hurling game that I will not easily forget.


Birr on a Sunday evening isn’t bustling. But hey, that’s alright. With a class dinner in the local Indian restaurant (garlic naan, butter chicken, tiger beer) and a round of Guinness we got all we needed to sink into the big soft beds at the Maltings House for a great night’s sleep.


This morning (it’s still Monday now that I write this, after just having dropped off the lads at the airport) we woke up at half seven in order to be present for breakfast at eight. Why so early? Well, because we had a great game of golf scheduled at Castle Barna Golf club. The hostess of the B&B proved why the unit gets a 9.1 rating on Booking as she very kindly served us a super filling and tasty Irish breakfast (eggs, bacon, pudding), which went down very well with the fresh fruit & yoghurt (strawberries, moor berries, apple). With the weather still keeping up we walked a very pretty golf course, had lunch in the sun (burger, bun, chips) and drove back to Dublin. And then, while we had constantly cherished how long the weekend was taking and how much time we still had ahead of us and how it felt like we had been away for two weeks already, suddenly it was over. Bags out of the trunk, hugs at the airport, and that was it. What a trip. It was one of those weekends.


Koen: ‘Hoe heet dat ook alweer waar alles klein is?’
Teun: ‘Madurodam. Voor jou is alles klein’

Tuesday, 4 August 2015

Summer in the Netherlands

With the customary 30 minutes delay (Aer Lingus’s trademark) I landed last Friday afternoon at Schiphol Airport. Behind me I left dark and gloomy Dublin, where a splendid month of June had been followed up by a horrendous July with an average temperature below 14 degrees Celsius. Luckily the welcome in the Netherlands was warm in multiple ways. The evening set off at The Parade with Karine, David and Merel. Queueing for a while and paying the 7.5 euros entrance fee had raised expectations somewhat for what appeared to be an odd collection of tents, tables, chairs, food stalls and many, many hippies. And children. Loads of children. I still don’t really get the point of it all, but seeing my friends in combination with (tiny) beers and tasty food made the location rather inconsequential. What will stand me by for a while to come however is the performance we got to enjoy for a euro ('sorry we ran out of match sticks. When they ask for your ticket just hold two fingers down'). To be honest, by the time we had finished our dinner and had had a few drinks, the temperature had gone down significantly, and I involuntarily regretted ignoring Karine’s earlier advice of taking a coat. Well, we squared that one when I won a bet later on that night and earnt a bottle of wine! Anyway, the main reason for paying the euro was that we could warm up with a few dozen other people in a tiny shack, where we were treated a 20-minute play by some kids who were still in school learning how to become actors. Well, plenty to learn still ;). Whereas this show was very much the last push for David and myself to leave the Parade and take shelter in a warm pub somewhere, Karine and Merel seemingly hadn’t had enough. So while the two of us were drinking craft beers at Oliver, the ladies enjoyed some more 1 euro shows and teamed up with us later on that night. When Oliver closed (earlier than usual) I bade my goodbyes to David, whom I probably won’t see for a while given his imminent move far far away, and continued with Karine in a wine bar at Neude. When also that wine bar closed a few hours later it was only a cold 5 minute bike ride to Karine’s awesome new house where we had a very very last drink which eventually proved to be the one drink too many and made me feel slightly hungover the next day. A long shower and great breakfast sped up the recovery process significantly though, as did the bottle of ice cold weisner that I cracked open with Alex at Stadhuisplein not long thereafter. After a few hours Alex was replaced by Wendela while the sun kept on shining, and in great spirits I left for Amsterdam early that evening. With the Gay Pride in full swing in our capital, the streets and squares were buzzing with life and music. After having met up with Raymon and Gunter we had a few drinks in a few different bars whereafter we ended up at Rembrandtplein, which hosted a big festival. I am usually not the biggest fan of packed streets, crowds of drunks and streets littered so badly you can hardly see the pavement, but I must admit the combination of good music and great vibe among the crowd dancing and partying made for a very enjoyable experience. 


Joined by Teuni and a mate of the lads we then set off towards a club I can’t remember the name of. ‘Last time I tried to enter we were denied access because we were overdressed’. Raymon warily eyed my purple trousers and blue buttoned-up shirt. ‘They don’t like shirts in there. You had better take yours off’. And there I went, in my t-shirt, shirt folded up under my arm, wearing Gunter’s leather jacket on top. Better safe than sorry and a few minutes later we were rocking on the dance floor, shirt back on, and drinking cold bottles of Heineken. The next morning I felt remarkably similar to the day prior but also here my hosts made me a superb breakfast which swiftly wiped away any traces of hangover and headache. With the knowledge that the evening, scheduled with Anja, Tommie and Angela, would feature one or two drinks as well, I decided to give my body a break and the afternoon with Manon, Iris, Minke, Roelant and Bob was spent on orange juice and coffee. Manon had picked a splendid location at the water, a short boat ride away from Amsterdam Central Station, and it was there that we enjoyed the view and a catch-up on each other’s lives. As with all my little reunions, time went by faster than was desired and it really felt more like 45 minutes rather than 3 hours later when I bade my farewells. Hop on the boat and hop on the train and off to Schiphol, where Tommie and Angela picked me up on their way to Noordwijk. With the sun still shining brilliantly we were received warmly by Anja. Not for the first time this weekend the thought ‘I could live here’ struck me, as Anja had secured a beautiful apartment with a spacious balcony. 


Cold white wine at that very balcony kicked off an evening which would take us to Dutch for dinner and back to Anja’s for some limoncello to finish the evening in style. I experienced the best hangover cure of the weekend by taking an early morning swim in the sea with Anja the next morning after which I lounged on the deckchair on the balcony all day. Well, not all day, as we went to have lunch at the beach, but yes the rest of my Monday until 18:00 was spent in the sun with a newspaper and a glass of water. Anja was kind enough to drop me off at Schiphol and after a goodbye hug I made my way to the gate where, surprise surprise, my Aer Lingus flight was delayed. Awesome weekend catching up with friends, thanks everyone for the lovely time. And of course a blog post wouldn’t be complete with a quote to top it all off with:

(about not being allowed to smoke in the restaurant)
·       ‘Waarom zou dat niet mogen? We zitten toch buiten.’
·       ‘Nee dit telt niet als buiten.’
·       ‘Nou als het regent word ik nat’



Monday, 13 July 2015

Looking back at the summer of 2015

Dear future Tony. When you read this a few years from now, when reminiscing your time in Ireland, then recall the summer of 2015 and the quality of life you enjoyed at the time. You decided to spend most of June, July and August on the Emerald Island, rather than flying out every weekend. This makes sense of course, as the weather is least likely to be absolutely horrible this time of the year. Well past Tony, so far that has been a good choice. The weather in June has been magnificent, and the past weeks you played football in Fairview Park every Saturday and mostly one evening a week as well. Even now that the weather has adopted a more Irish nature again, this week’s game is expected to take place nonetheless. And this is not the only exercise you are exposing yourself to, oh no. You are remarkably successful in keeping up your weekly visit to the gym, for either a ‘functional training class’ or 50-odd lanes in the pool. Usually there’s a chilling out session in the steamer or jacuzzi (or both) involved afterwards. As a little reward, you know. Not bad! Also you have tried to pick up Tag rugby, which has been less successful. The team you joined for the 9-week competition showed a remarkable lack of team spirit, which was only matched by the lacklustreness of some of the opponents. Like last week’s, who didn’t even show up. You may recall that past Tony was quite happy for the tag season to have finished, and he doesn’t intend to join again next season. But hey, whether that happened is only something future Tony knows at this time. Evenings which are not filled with these activities are usually filled up with other events of a social nature, such as last week when Josh visited for an evening (a living souvenir from Albania), the Taste of Dublin and the Rabo football event. And yes, the weekends. Weekends spent in Dublin was quite a novelty for past Tony, as he used to be away all the time. Not this summer. Or well, not all the time. And how he is enjoying it! The past Saturdays have been long and filled with drinks, music and laughter. Such as last week when Xavi took you to a house party, or last Saturday when a house warming lasted until Sunday morning. Summer in Dublin, it’s not that bad. It’s not bad at all. 

Monday, 29 June 2015

Ballyconneely III


For the third time I found myself in the privileged position to pay a visit to one of my favourite places in Ireland. Tucked away in the bog lands of western county Galway, with the Atlantic on all sides, and the mainland dotted with lakes, lies the sprawling village of Ballyconneely. This time however I didn’t find myself being driven across Ireland in a slick BMW (Padraic) or sporty Alfa Romeo (Aidan), as my bike and I boarded the 18:30 train to Galway city last Friday evening. Given the beautiful weather we have had in Dublin over the past weeks, I was under the impression that summer had finally come to Ireland. Well, it has come to Dublin. The west coast is a completely different story. And since I cycled from Galway to Ballyconneely, that mattered.


Saturday morning, eight o’clock. I wake up, bewildered, realising it’s an hour later than I had intended to rise. Since I had been nagging the owner of the place about breakfast ‘as early as possible’ and her response that ‘the earliest I can do for you is half seven’ I felt slightly guilty. An hour later however I found myself well fed and properly equipped on my hybrid, with a backpack full of bananas and sports drinks, repair kit and hand pump included just in case, heading off west on the coastal road. Four hours later I arrived at Melani’s place. Soaked. Whatever rain I didn’t see in Dublin since coming back from Albania, well, I caught up with that last Saturday, as an INCESSANT DOWNPOUR accompanied me for AT LEAST half the time on the road. Ok… ‘incessant downpour’ might be a bit of an exaggeration, as it didn’t quite compare with the showers I remember from the rainy season in New Delhi. There, when the first mega droplet exploded in the dust right in front of your feet, you knew you had five seconds to look for shelter lest you might as well jump in a pool with all your clothes on. So it wasn’t that bad. But then again, it wasn’t 40 degrees Celsius, as in Delhi. It was just warm enough not to be cold when working your way through the gorgeous landscape of Connemara. Cause whatever wind and rain is thrown at you, the scenery is still very pretty.


Arriving at Melani’s place I got a very warm welcome and a very welcome warm lunch. An hour later, with food in my belly and after a hot shower, I felt reborn like a phoenix and happily sat down to prepare the ingredients she would use for making pancakes at the Roundstone market the next day. Glad to be at least a little bit useful rather than being just a freeriding liability I sliced ham, peppers and onions while Melani prepared the batter. Later in the afternoon we were joined by Joane and her niece for a walk in an area I forgot the name of, whereafter Melani and I stocked up wine and bites for the evening and sat down at a cool pub at the bay for a pint. What had hitherto appeared to be a remote and sparsely populated area to me, which it is to be honest, I now got a flavour of the very active community that lives there and the range of nationalities that jointly make for a nicely varied crowd. From the old lady in the supermarket who told us to ‘stop arguing’ to the chatty people in the bay-side bar, the people in Connemara seem an assertive and happy bunch. Meanwhile the rain was only intensifying, which by now didn’t matter anymore as really all we were going to do was sit inside, eat, and drink.

A lovely dish prepared by Joane, in conjunction with Melani’s oven-grilled chicken, proved more than enough food to satisfy the appetite of four adults and four kids, with the leftovers being enough to feed an orphanage for a week. Irish coffees (plural) for desert and a wide variety of red wine completed the culinary experience and it was well after midnight when we called it a day. Melani offered Nick a bed for the night so he wouldn’t have to drive home and I am quite confident to say that we all feel asleep as soon as our heads hit the pillow.


The next morning I was woken up by a cat that climbed on top of me. With the wind howling outside and my tongue feeling like a dried piece of leather, the prospect of cycling another 100km back to Galway didn’t particularly appeal to me. With Melani off to the market and me sitting in an empty house I decided that if I was going to cycle the whole way back I might as well start straight away. Great views and great weather lasted for about 20 minutes whereafter the clouds moved back in and I took the N59 back to Galway (back home I had been too lazy to navigate the way back which forced me to take the main road). Fortunately the wind that had been quite a challenge on the way there had only gained in strength and was now pushing me back east. Going 30 km/hour there was no need for me to do any work all the way Oughterard with a strong tailwind pushing me through the rolling hills. From there the road turned which made the last 25km the hardest ones, but all in all the three hours cycling back weren’t quite as challenging as the first leg had been. Luckily, as my body wasn’t quite up to it. Arriving in Galway well ahead of schedule, the staff of Kinlay hostel proved that my previous positive experience with them wasn’t a one-off as they let me have a shower and hang out in the common room free of charge. There’s worse ways reminiscing a great weekend and a nice exercise than in a soft sofa, reading the economist and sipping a can of coke. Six o’clock, tjop tjop back on the train to Dublin, and home at nine. Cycling in Connemara, even with atrocious weather, well worth the trip. Thanks Melani for the great stay!!



Nick: ‘She doesn’t swim in the sea because the fish fuck in it’
Melani: ‘Not fuck Nick, swim.. SWIM’
Nick: ‘Well oh eh that’s what you told me’
Melani: ‘I was joking Nick’

Thursday, 25 June 2015

Blissful summer nights

Flashbacks to a time that long since passed brought me back to my childhood days last Tuesday evening. As a kid growing up in a semi-rural environment, without smartphones or computers, the long summer holidays were spent outdoors. It usually involved playing football at the local playground, where all the children from the village would gather for a game that lasted until twilight turned into darkness and you could barely see the ball or your friends on the pitch. The final set of what seemed like endless games of ping pong at the camping site in France was similarly forced upon us by dusk, and plans were always enthusiastically made for the next day. In my memories these evenings were warm, a pleasant warm summer night, that would allow you to run around in shorts and still be comfortable. Whenever you were sent to bed by your parents it always felt too early, cause it had only just gotten dark? The lengthened exposure to daylight over the summer holidays only magnified the endless energy you seem to have as a child and the summer holidays seemed to last forever. No worries, no responsibilities, and the blissful ignorance of what those words really mean.


Last Tuesday was a bit like that. One of the lads with whom I usually play on Saturdays had the brilliant thought of making the most of these long summer evenings by organising a weekday kick-around as well. The venue was Fairview Park, as usual, and the scene was very reminiscent of those old days when you were playing football with your friends. The sultry summer evening that is really not that typical for Dublin and the blend of South American and Mediterranean accents on the pitch made for a scene that could have been anywhere in the world. But no, this really is Ireland, it is summer in Dublin with already three weeks of very pleasant weather in a row. It is almost as if it will never end. But like back in the days, when the beginning of a new year of school was looming in the distance, I know that sooner or later this spell of good weather will be swallowed up by some incessant downpour. Better enjoy it now that we have the chance, I can’t wait for the next game.